androgyne-enjolras:

bangawang:

anxietyparty:

I hate when straight people talk about how we “should never assume anyone is gay!!” based on appearance/mannerism/behaviour/anything

But they never talk about how assuming everyone is straight is harming people!!!

Not letting us talk about gay aesthetics and traditions and culture is just another way to silence and isolate us 🙂

It’s so disingenuous, too. Like…I know I look gay, okay? I get called out and harassed by strangers all the time over my appearance. And I do most of it on purpose! This isn’t some high school movie ugly duckling narrative; lesbians aren’t awkward wallflowers wishing desperately that they could look like straight girls, if only they’d ever learned how. As if we could escape being taught! I’m a grown adult and I choose to look this way.

If you really don’t think there’s anything wrong with being gay, why do you think it’s the polite thing to pretend you don’t see it, especially since it’s how I wish to be seen?

This is such a good post, my god. Sometimes I feel so guilty for recognizing other queer folks by picking up the signals – aka, “assuming based on stereotypes” – but the reality is that most of us who do have those signs and signals are intentionally coding to find each other and be ourselves visibly and loudly.