How to Fake Confidence

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1. Hold your head high, and look others in the eye

2. Smile

3. Stop apologizing

4. Relax and be quick to laugh at yourself (but not at others!)

5. Dress in a way that indicates you have self worth

6. Use good manners (like saying please and thank you) as this is actually a mark of self respect

7. Expect other people to believe in you, and to see and appreciate your good qualities.

8. Before you know it, its no longer fake

wheRE WAS THIS ALL MY LIFE

As someone who did this, I can guarantee you it legit works

This, my darlings. All of it. Because step 8 is true: it will no longer be fake, you will have taught yourself to have confidence. 

Like Carrie said: Stay afraid, but do it anyways.

If you keep your hands clasped behind your back it makes you appear broader and invokes a pressence of confidence/seniority/hey-listen-to-me/importantance.  Demands attention, essentially.

Clasping your hands in front of you though is a more submissive stance.  Doing this while someone is talking and leaning forward slightly gives the appearance that you’re interested in what they’re saying.

I once had to give an impromtu speech in front of a tong of deans and did the first when I was talking and the second when my partner was talking.  Went over really well.  Got compliments days afterwards from them because of how I presented myself (they didn’t know what I was doing, or at least doing it intentionally).

Don’t stare too long directly into someone’s eyes, it makes them uncomfortable.  Instead, move along the different features of their face from time to time, like their eyebrows to their nose to their left eye then right eye.

Practice in a mirror smiling with your eyes.  Makes your smiles appear less fake more genuine, even if they are fake.

Ask people how they are, questions about themselves.  People like talking about themselves.  Makes you seem interested in them.  They like that, then in turn like you.

This works, kiddos. I used to have self-esteem issues until a few years ago when I started faking confidence. Now I’m borderline egotistical.

Correct your body language and speeh habits. It does wonders.

I did this in Junior High changed my life.