randomslasher:

fandomsandanythingelse:

randomslasher:

lovinggeekycreator:

randomslasher:

lovinggeekycreator:

randomslasher:

I’m still creatively blocked so I’m learning the countries of Europe instead of writing. That’s logical, right?

At least your doing something more productive, compared to laying around doing nothing like me.

You are resting your body and mind. That is productive! Self-care is important. Don’t let yourself fall into the trap of guilting yourself for needing a break!

But I feel like I do this way too often and I’m not sure if that’s being “productive” or lazy.

Let me tell you something I’ve learned: very very VERY few people are ‘lazy’ in the way I think you mean it here.

I see people use the word ‘lazy’ as a form of self-recrimination a lot. Hell, I used to do it to myself all the time! But when you examine your real reasons for doing (or as the case may be, NOT doing) things, you may find that ‘laziness’ is not actually the cause.

In my case, for instance, my perceived ‘laziness’ was actually my chronic pain rendering me immobile. I didn’t want to get up because getting up hurt. I asked other people to grab me things because the effort it took for me to get them (and the pain it caused to do so) was so great that it was easier to ask someone else and then apologize for my laziness to them afterward. It took my partner pointing out to me that I’m always perfectly willing to get up and do things when I’m not in pain before I realized that my self-diagnosed ‘laziness’ was just me trying to prevent more pain.

Let’s look at some other common reasons people may think they are lazy:

– Chronic fatigue
– Insomnia
– Depression
– Anxiety
– ADHD (Executive dysfunction is a REAL bitch)
– Stress
– Just being regular old tired from a stressful time at school/work/whatever

There are plenty of reasons people may need to rest. And everyone comes with different levels of energy. Comparing yourself to other people or holding yourself to some imaginary standard of productivity someone else has arbitrarily set is quite damaging, particularly when you then punish yourself by calling yourself ‘lazy’ when you DON’T meet that standard.

My partner always tells me that true laziness is being perfectly able to do something and just deciding not to. Laziness is a choice. All those reasons I listed above? Those things impact your ability. You don’t choose them. They are obstacles you have to work through that other people may not. And there are many, many reasons other than the ones I’ve listed above that may make it more difficult for you to be productive all the time. If you really sit down and examine your reasons for ‘laying around and doing nothing,’ I’m willing to bet that you’d find ‘laziness’ isn’t really on the list. 

Don’t beat yourself up, okay? Be kind to yourself. Give yourself permission to rest. It’s really okay to need it.

*hugs*

I really needed this today

I’d also like to add that the choice to be lazy once in awhile is also not a bad thing! Deciding that yes, you COULD get up and clean your room or do your homework, but you would really sort of like to stay in bed an extra hour or two? That’s okay. 

Self-care is important! Give yourself permission to be lazy once in awhile!

no-url-ideas-tho:

why isn’t anyone allowed to be wrong anymore? it’s okay to be wrong. no one should be terrified of every tiny little mistake they might make. being wrong, and realizing you were wrong, is how you learn and grow and change.